Everyone feels good to be heard. Don’t you agree? When you choose to put your phone down sometimes and give attention to what your child is saying, do you see the difference in your child’s behavior? Listening attentively to your child strengthens your relationship and makes the child feel understood. You don’t have to reply to everything a child says or fix every situation, being there and engaging in the conversation helps you know your child better, and builds your child’s self-esteem.
Plan regular one-on-one time with your child, by taking a break from technology for that stretch of time and making the most of it to connect with your little one. Amid the myriad of demands in daily life, it is certainly not so easy to unplug and sit with kids. But there are moments when we as parents feel guilty about not being able to make our children feel valued. Don’t we ignore our children’s efforts to engage us when we are distracted by something futile?
How many times do we just say ‘okay’, ‘hmm’ to our kids, without looking at them when they talk to us? Have we really listened to what they had to say or pretended to listen? Texting a friend, scrolling through social media posts or simply watching the screen sometimes takes priority over engaging with our kids and we don’t often realize how the child feels about it. Engaging with your child helps you build a strong relationship with him/her. It helps you understand what’s happening in your child’s life.
How do you think can we make time to listen to our kids in our busy life? Do share your ideas in the comments.