When you’ve been deeply hurt, don’t you wish to strike back with the same level of harm to the other person rather than letting go? If you do so, does it bring you true joy and peace or does it make you violate your values and affect your credibility? Most often, in everyday life, people retaliate in small ways such as defaming, gossiping, backbiting, and the list goes on. This might improve your mood and soothe your pain in the moment. But, in the long run, seeking vengeance has its consequences on your emotional state and well-being.
How we wish that our transgressor has a change of heart and we look forward to an apology or convincing explanation. Don’t you resonate with this? At the same time, we are aware within, that there are people who never own their mistakes or take responsibility for their actions. We meet insensitive people who don’t realize the amount of emotional pain they give, every time they say or do something hurtful. In such a scenario, don’t you think, expecting a transformation or seeking revenge can never bring you lasting peace? Do you prefer to thrive and live a purpose-filled life or spend your time and energy on something that’s not making you productive or bringing you solace?
Most often, grudges or paybacks come with a price. Grudges make you bitter, occupy your emotional space, drain your energy, and keep you stuck, making you unable to focus on your goals and move forward. Looking back and regretting is not worth it, as life is much more than getting even with people. Learn the lesson and focus on your own growth. Allow your experiences to make you a stronger person, and not weaker. Accept what happened, as denying won’t help you move on, but don’t get stuck in the past, rather move on with dignity.
Letting go
Sometimes, walking away is better than an argument, setting boundaries is better than expecting a transformation in the offender, focusing on self-care is better than expecting someone else to understand what you’re going through and mindfulness is better than negative thinking. Working on your own healing needs to let go of the hurt that you are holding on to. It makes way for something new and positive to happen in life, allows you to grow and thrive, and lets you experience joy and healing once again.
A little patience, a little self-care, and a little more acceptance can change a lot in your life, as nobody can harm you unless you allow them to have an impact on your mind. To react, respond, or breathe and walk away is your choice after all. Think before you get overwhelmed with your emotions and avoid getting into emotional turmoil. It does no good in any way. Rather choose your well-being and change your perspective about the situation. This will certainly help you find yourself again and give you the space you deserve.
Life isn’t about what others do to you. It’s about how you live and what you do with all that you have. Use your opportunities and do not lose them to fear or anxiety. Forgive and keep moving, for you’ve got to live a fulfilled life to enjoy it and not a regret-filled life that could bring you suffocation and unhappiness. Do not allow people to change the direction of your thoughts and dreams. Stay focused and know where you’re heading. Walk in the light and shine by letting go of the past, instead of getting engulfed in the darkness of bitterness and hard feelings.
Do you think it’s good to make peace with your past and open yourself to new experiences in life? Share your opinions in the comments.
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I had a lot of anger inside. I grew up with alcoholic parents and had plenty of issues already. I tended to hold grudges against people who’d hurt me, including my parents. It began to take a physical toll on me as well as an emotional one. I began to attend 12 step meetings and entered into therapy. Once I couldn’t think of my parents without a great deal of resentment but over the years, I did learn to let go of it and there are many better memories coming back to me. It seems that once I began to make peace with my parents, I no longer held grudges against anyone else who upset me. Thanks for this article. I enjoy your blog very much.
Thank you for sharing your life experience and how you’ve overcome anger and holding grudges. Your comment explains how holding grudges hurts us more than the actual offense and letting go helps us find peace in life. It’s nice to know that you were able to let go and you made peace with your parents.
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I generally just let things go, I sort of protect my peace that way and don’t hold grudges as I find I don’t have the energy to expel on things like that. I definitely feel intense emotional pain or anger for a while as I am quite sensitive, but I focus on working through those feeling rather than directing that focus and energy on getting even. It’s served me well as it’s helped me move through some pretty difficult times. Great post—really thought-provoking!
Thank you for sharing about how you handle anger or emotional pain. Working through the feelings and protecting your peace is a great way to move forward without holding grudges.
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