When you’ve been deeply hurt, don’t you wish to strike back with the same level of harm to the other person? If you do so, does it bring you true joy and peace or does it make you violate your personal values and affect your credibility? Most often, in everyday life, people retaliate in small ways such as defaming, gossiping, backbiting, and the list goes on. This might improve your mood and soothe your pain in the moment. But, in the long run, seeking vengeance has its own consequences on your emotional state and well-being.
How we wish that our transgressor has a change of heart and we look forward to an apology or convincing explanation. Don’t you resonate with this? At the same time, we are aware within, that there are people who never own their mistakes or take responsibility for their actions. We meet insensitive people who don’t realize the amount of emotional pain they give, every time they say or do something hurtful. In such a scenario, don’t you think, expecting a transformation or seeking revenge can never bring you lasting peace? Do you prefer to thrive and live a purpose-filled life or spend your time and energy on something that’s not making you productive or bringing you solace?
Most often, grudges or paybacks come with a price. Grudges make you bitter, occupy your emotional space, drain your energy, and keep you stuck, making you unable to focus on your goals and move forward. Looking back and regretting is not worth it, as life is much more than getting even with people. Learn the lesson and focus on your own growth. Allow your experiences to make you a stronger person, and not weaker. Accept what happened, as denying won’t help you move on, but don’t get stuck in the past, rather move on with dignity.
Sometimes, walking away is better than an argument, setting boundaries is better than expecting a transformation in the offender, focusing on self-care is better than expecting someone else to understand what you’re going through and mindfulness is better than negative thinking. Working on your own healing needs to let go of the hurt that you are holding on to. It makes way for something new and positive to happen in life, allows you to grow and thrive, and lets you experience joy and healing once again.
Do you think it’s good to make peace with your past and open yourself to new experiences in life? Share your opinions in the comments.