In all that we say or do, reflecting on the implications of our words or actions, helps us to be mindful and respectful. You need courage to accept your mistakes and learn from them. Not everyone is strong enough to say ‘I’m Sorry’. A heartfelt apology, makes a big difference. It builds trust and strengthens relationships. Deciding to let go or to hold on to resentment is a struggle, but holding on to the hurt, never helps you heal. Withholding forgiveness magnifies the hurt and increases your pain.
There is power in forgiving. Small acts of forgiveness and mercy keep you from the negative impacts of pride in your life and help you grow in a positive direction every day. Certain experiences in life make us resilient and teach us meaningful lessons that stay in our hearts and help us live a purpose filled life. Though not always, at times, there is meaning in the emotional pain we feel. It gives you inner strength and helps you move on in life with meaning.
It’s true that forgiveness doesn’t undo the hurt, but when you forgive, the memory of the hurt doesn’t have the power to control your feelings or your behavior. Forgiveness takes away bitterness from your life and gives you peace. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that you accept the way you were treated or that you give up your self-respect. Rather, it is deciding not to pay back your offender for the pain caused. Is actually sets you free from the struggle to get over the bitterness caused. It keeps you from revenge, helps you heal and move on with integrity.
Do you feel forgiving is better than vengeance? Do share your opinion in the comments.