Moms worry about many different things and mommy fear is different for every mom, as not all families and circumstances are the same. Does your anxiety get out of control at times, due to overthinking and misuse of imagination? This happens to most mums and is not to be feared but to be overcome with the right strategies.
What is Mommy fear?
Mothers usually worry much regarding their children’s safety, well-being, and future. It’s a common aspect of motherhood and can be influenced by personal experiences, societal pressures, and the desire to provide the best for one’s children. Although mommy fear is natural, getting overwhelmed with such fear could harm a woman’s overall well-being and needs to be managed effectively.
1. Setting realistic expectations
The sooner you accept the fact that perfection in parenting is not attainable, the clearer you will be in your expectations and goals.
Although mistakes are unavoidable in daily life, accepting them can help you and your child use them as a part of the learning process to work on yourselves and not repeat them often.
Unrealistic expectations can lead to mom stress and take a toll on your mental and physical health. Here are some tips on how to deal with mom stress: 3 ways to deal with mom stress.
2. Choose your circle wisely
Being careful while choosing whom you pour out your concerns with, is important as friends in your circle could either help you calm down and learn to handle things positively or increase your stress and make you feel overwhelmed with fear.
Do not let your mommy fear be fuelled by choosing people who are not good for your mental health. Share your feelings with those who empathize and guide you with positivity.
3. Trust in God
Reflect on your journey of motherhood and ask yourself, has God abandoned you, and have your past fears come to pass?
When things don’t go the way we want to, it is necessary to remember that, God who blessed us with motherhood, has a way and will work it out in his time. Trust in him for he holds you and guides you. Lean on him and not on your own understanding.
Becoming an anxious parent and hovering over everything that your child does, could ease your worries, but did you know that it could keep your child from developing critical thinking skills and resilience?
In situations where you have no control, allow your faith in God to take control of your thoughts and allow the joy of motherhood to drive you rather than mommy fear.
4. Prioritize your well-being
Do you take a few moments for ‘me-time’ in a day? It could be in simple ways like having a cup of coffee in a quiet place of your house, without any fear running through your mind, taking a shower or a nap, reading a book, exercising, or pursuing a hobby for a few minutes every day.
Practicing self-care reduces stress in life and helps look at things from different perspectives. When you are running empty of joy or peace in life, it becomes difficult to spend time with your kids, without losing your temper or feeling anxious. When your well-being is taken care of, it becomes possible for you to deal better with stress, overcome mommy fear, and handle motherhood with love and joy.
5. Teach them, not please them
Do you try pleasing your kids and give in to all their demands? This could be a recipe for disaster, although you feel that it makes your kids happy and brings you relief from disagreements.
As a mother, you can have a profound influence on your kids with your behavior, beliefs, attitude, and lifestyle. They look up to you for guidance and teaching. Show them what’s acceptable and what’s not. Have the limits in place, and teach them responsibility. All this can be done with love and firmness, without being too rigid or harsh.
As children learn from their experiences and develop a sense of responsibility, they will respect you. You are not here to please them, but to love them without spoiling them.
How do you handle mommy fear in everyday life? Do share in the comments.
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Thank u for this insightful post!
You’re Welcome Divya!
I’m glad you found it insightful.
I can imagine that having a circle of support as a mum can be so very useful, especially when experiencing fear and worries. It must be a difficult aspect of parenthood to navigate. Thanks for sharing this!
A circle of support is very useful for moms. Thank you for sharing your view on this.
Yes experiencing mommy fear is very human. Many think being a mother “comes naturally” but it really doesn’t. Even animals. I had a dog once who got out before she was neutured and become pregnant and had 8 puppies. At the beginning she wanted nothing to do with them. She literally would try to run away from them. I would have to kind of chastise her to have her understand what she needed to do.
Very helpful post.
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I’m glad you found this post helpful.
Thank you for sharing your view on mommy fear.
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